Henners, there's only one way to approach it. Do you want to be with this person? If yes, read more. If no, get a divorce. If you want them to stay, you have to basically I love you I will change (if an issue) and you really have to change fyi... Let's get some help If she wants space, don't contact. At all. Maybe once a week. " Thinking of you, love you. Let me know when we can talk. I am willing to go to a councilor so I don't lose you" If the love is gone, and they don't want you , don't waste any more time and just part. Oh yeah... If you are going to be divorce be sure to sell off all your property to pals and spend the money on things important that aren't hiding money. Prepay for training Get teeth fixed Get eye lasic Take a vacation to your dream spot. Use up all the money you have on things that will make you better, like prepay for a year of school. Courts won't go after you for any of that. Best of luck.
Assembler said it perfectly. If you both love each other, than work out your issues. If not, you're more than likely gonna get a divorce. Good luck.
#1 consult a lawyer now, as in tomorrow. If you don't have much value in the house / it's worth less than you paid, file for bankruptcy and give it back. If they foreclose and sell it, you still owe them the difference on the mortgage. You will prob have to file for bankruptcy. If she is stupid, sign the house / car over to her. Pay off all loans and debts you BOTH share #1 If you are going into LE after AF, prepay LE training. If it's a nasty divorce: Keep an eye on her splurge spending on credit in your name. If she has moved out, have the locks changed and arrange to give her back her things. Pack them up, and when she comes for them call the police and ask them to supervise as she picks them up to prevent drama. Don't let her in the house. If she ever comes to the door, don't answer. Post a no soliciting / trespassing sign. Call the police and ask them to tell her to leave. Tell all your friends about the split before she does so she can't spin stories. Be gracious, be forgiving, be the better person. If you were renting, move out and forget the deposit. Give her the phone number of your lawyer.Tell her contact is from then on only via lawyer.
One trick I've heard is not to a see just one attorney but as many as possible. The reasoning I was told is that once you consult them (and many have free consultations) they cannot then represent your spouse as it is a conflict of interest. Not sure if the law varies but it is worth checking out.
Divorces and the divorce rate are the main reason I don't think I'll ever get married. Break ups are bad enough without having to decide who gets the dog.
I've gone through a divorce, as a kid. People used to say they felt bad for me. I never had an issue with it, but my sister did.
Blimey. I thought child marriages and incest were outlawed a hundred years ago! But seriously, the advice you've got above is about as good as you're gonna get. The rest is up to you and your partner to deal with.
well, i am not married, just cause it dosent interests me, same thing about having kids. After 6 years of relationship, i have it clear. If i ever think about the posibility about quit this relationship, i will. If you have 50/50 posibilities about a divorce, i asume its cause both of you still need something from the other one, this should not be a reason to keep living with someone that has doubts about the relationship. I think its better to quit before the whole problem gets bigger If you dont have kids, money is something that allways comes back, what you cant get back is the time you may spend trying to fix something that has no solution
All the best Henners!! Not sure what it's like I've only been rejected and never taken (I'm forever alone) but I know it's not a good feeling from that. Everything Kev has said makes sense... Take care man, hopefully everything gets worked out quickly.
I wish the best outcome for you, and if no hard feelings for the other side, also for her. Kev said good things to think about, hope you dont have kids, if you do, they need both parents, im no expert and only know to say, find someone real live expert to talk to, maybe they can give wise word for consideration.
If there are kids involved, don't try and keep the marriage together solely on their behalf. This would probably just end up being a much worse environment than if you two just split up while keeping the kids an important part of your life. You would also want to try and give the kids a basic understanding of what's going on and that it doesn't affect you thoughts and feelings toward them.
The modern solution if you have kids and break up is to get two apartments in the same building so the kids can move about and still have mom and dad, but mom and dad can live their own lives. It's a recent approach and seems to work for some people.
Sounds like a pretty good solution so long as the divorce wasn't for reasons that involved abuse and a restraining order. Not sure how keen I'd be on accidentally seeing my ex-wife at the mail box or in the parking lot.
LMFAO!! Henners, I'm sorry to hear that. Hope you work it out one way or another. Do what's best for you.
