You can do one of two things: either use an ODEM card together with OdemSrv.exe to feed the GCM to your GDEV over SCSI, or write the GCM file to an NPDP cartridge. If possible, the ODEM method is preferred since it's faster and doesn't need an expensive cartridge and writer. It does require the more rare ODEM PCI card though.
How does the usb2exi work and how do I switch the dolphin to between retail made and development mode
To the best of my knowledge the USB2EXI is used for PC <-> GDEV communication for debugging purposes. You use the boot mode selection tool included in the SDK to switch modes between retail and development. It's a simple .ELF you load onto the GDEV that gives you a small menu to switch modes.
sorry the odem is a card suppposed to go in to the pc right and then it connects to the odem port on the dolphin?