How do I dig myself out of this hole?

If you have an account you can apply much more quickly through it, that said I think this whole "WE CAN TRACK U!!!" is a load of shit and fear tactics akin to the tv license detector vans.

Either way, I'm applying to what I can and documenting it so they can't fault me!

 

Holy fuck that was the most horrible interview ever.

I've never ever had to explain what certain pieces of code do to someone before.

I just use them, and they work. Putting it into words is terrible.

 

It's all good practice! Besides, even if you think an interview went crap you may be called back/offered the job. When will they let you know?

 

Just heard back from them. They're asking me to do a 30 min practical test. They sent the spec sheet through.

Uses two API's I've never used before and JSON which I have no experience with and I told them that.

Looks like I'm out.

 

I'm assuming it's likely REST and JSON? Tends to be a common ask these days from employers. Think of JSON as significantly smaller XML. It's really not too different.

 

It's just all too different to what I'm used to doing, it's all MapKit and location based stuff, an area of iOS Dev I've yet to venture into. I just don't feel I have the motivation or skills to take it on.

 

If the situation you stated you were in with your first post wasn't enough motivation then nothing is ever going to be.

 

Twimfy this is sad to hear.

As for the technical interviews, don't be scared about the REST API and JSON, it is pretty easy and you can get the hang of it in a second. Also, be honest on the tech interviews, let them know if you don't know something, in many places they value humility and confidence, as in, humble enough to admit you don't know something, but confident enough to know you can learn it and tackle it.

I can help you go over your resume/CV and improve it if you want to shoot it my way. I can then distribute it around my contacts to see if anyone is in need of an iOS dev.

Things will only get better if you really want to, so drop the self pity and don't say you lack the skills or motivation to learn/do anything.

Also, get away from the disruptive environment at home as much as you can, go for a walk/jog/bike ride every day to clear your mind.

If you have the chance to get the Korea thing going on again, then try to do it, iirc you had a great time there, and being away from the country helps you clear your mind a lot, I know it is really tough to get back, but if you can get away for a long time it will help clear all this mess and get you back on your feet. And the money for the plane tickets, you can get that one way or the other I'm sure.

And as hard as it sounds, just don't contact your ex, if you want send that gift with a note, but stop there. If she can't stick with you through the rough times, then what do you want her for?

Cheers, hope you get better mate.

- Tchoin

 

It is as they say, a healthy body leads to a healthy mind. Joining the local gym may be the best thing you could do right now.

Don't bother driving there just to walk on the treadmill, that would be stupid. Walk it there, spend an hour really tearing down your muscle fibers and then walk it home.

The endorphins will really help with your mood and who knows, next time you go out on the pull several more women will like the new and improved you

I'm sure some of the new found confidence will give you better luck in interviews etc too.

 

Best thing in such situations is as always..

1. stop whining
2. get yourself together
3. restart previous/well used to life

you will be upon your feet in no time.

 

Well the letter and the gift went, a conversation ensued and she still said no, to be honest I don't feel too bothered by any of that anymore.

The uphill struggle now is just finding a job and getting myself healthy. Thankfully I start back at the Gym next week and LeGIt has given me some nice tips (although walking there is out of the question).

As for work, right now I'm set on taking anything but I'm writing iOS Dev off for now. I don't think I ever want to do it in a professional environment, I'm happy having it as a hobby and after that interview I realised that I'm simply not skilled enough with it to take it to the next level, that's not me being negative it's just the way it is.

I feel like things are gonna be better even though nothing has changed but I feel a bit more focused now.

I'm dead set on doing my PCGE teaching degree via the open university but I need to have a job before I can just to cover the times when I'm working in a school unpaid as the second I start the course, I'll lose any benefits I'm claiming.

 

You wont lose benefits when you start the course. Long as you are still looking for work, you would still get benefits. Assuming you cant find work before the course finishes - you are OK.

Just being on a course doesnt make you ineligible for benefits, its "not being available for work"

 

+1 to that.

Fuck your pride or whatever else is stopping you from applying. If you pay into the system you have a right to get paid out too. The JobCentre can be a ballache to deal with at the best of times, but it is either that, or burn through your savings so quickly you won't even have time to wonder what happened. So long as your are honest and declare all comings and goings, any help making ends meet is a lot better than no help.

In fact, if you are doing a course via The Open University, you can do it for free if you are on the rock and roll. You just need to get your advisor to stamp the form for whatever module you intend to do before applying to the OU. Depending on your circumstances, it will either reduce or remove the course cost entirely. The JobCentre also won't backdate your claim so the sooner you sign on the better, so what are you waiting for? Lets crack on with the new and improved you already

 

You can always go to social services and sign up for food points (I call them that because they use a card system now) from what your saying they will give you 120 $ - 200 $ and month its not hard sign a paper and get evaluated at the beginning of the next month you ill recieve a card in the mail, don't feel bad its thier to help you get out of the situation thier are also plans to help you find a decent job with benefits (just make sure the pee is clean if your into that).

Also sign up for free health care to help with the depression and other problems, just don't let them give you any psychoactive medication a lot have bad side effects.

Nm just relized you were in the uk.

 

I've been signing on for a good few months now. I've asked about the OU course. They said there's nothing they could do. Either they're lying or failing to give me the information. I'd be very surprised if the gov. would write of a £9000 a year course just like that though.

EDIT: Student loans would pay for it but I'd get no financial support. I'm not entitled to a bursary because A: My degree grade wasn't high enough and B: The subject I'm doing isn't covered by the grants scheme.

 

Full time uni courses are up to £9000 a year. The Open University largely do part time courses and they don't charge per year, they charge per module.

There are things you can try, in which case they should have told you there are options out there but you do not meet the criteria but the JobCentre staff arn't exactly employed for their intelligence.

They're either not told about certain things, told not to grant too many things, have no sense of professionalism to go out and learn everything they need to do to do their job to their best of their ability or are just plain stupid, though to be fair a pretty fucked up and complicated system really doesn't help matters.

http://www3.open.ac.uk/study/undergraduate/qualification/ways-to-pay/england.htm

 

I'm applying for a PGCE. Which is a full time course, it's usually done at a Uni in a single year block but the nearest Uni's to me that do it are Bristol or Southampton and I can't afford to go to either as commute or moving is out of my reach.

So a PGCE at OU is just taught at home over a slightly longer period and differs in payment and structure to a standard modular course. Anyway getting a loan for it isn't really too much of an issue.

What I really want to do is a SCITT course which is paid work in a school while getting the degree, but they're like gold dust and I've had no luck getting one so far.

 

Man...and here I am in the US annoyed at the fact that I'm still looking at $30k of student debt (Which actually isn't bad for my age in the US)...I can't imagine if I were paying anywhere near £9000 a year!

 

I've been doing everything they ask and they still threaten me. They haven't told me to spend 5 hours a day on universal jobmatch thankfully and frankly that's lunacy, it would take like 2 hours max to browse each and every dead-end vacancy they have advertised on there!
Today I was told "don't check NHS jobs so often or I'll have to sanction you" Yes I check it every day but I do check so many other things and document it all, which I said to here. She then started talking like she was repeating some sort of brainwashed line "you must widen your search". I then asked her "well what do you want me to do? I check NHS jobs and universal jobmatch every day, I check the local paper, I check new scientist jobs every other day, I check canon jobs once a week, I check the friday and I apply to loads more jobs per week than your designated minimum of five. To which she shrugged and replied "need to get your foot on the ladder not everybody walks out of uni into their dream job", it was all I could do not to reply "really, you think that I've only been applying for my "dream job" or jobs relevant to my biomedical science degree? I guess i missed the module where they taught us how to be a night porter or how to be a BMW salesman or how to be the secretary to the manager of the local greggs!!!!"
To be entirely honest, these mythical people who apparently live a benefits lifestyle, fair enough to them, well done, it's so degrading going there every two weeks and told by someone who doesn't know your life that you're scum, no amount of "free time" is worth it. I've only been claiming for two months and I already feel like I would kill myself everybody else in the country just for a zero hour contract job drinking piss on the street outside the redhill poundland! Every night before I go to sign on I get no sleep worrying about what they're going to do this time, whether someone will spit at me on the way in again, if the adviser is going to tell me that nobody wants to employ me because I'm lazy again, if today is going to be the day that I have a breakdown on the bus.

We all more or less know how you feel twimfy, different circumstances, similar sort of end result.
On the plus side people usually seem to get out of it one way or another. I'm looking into male prostitution and shouting about the apocalypse in Trafalgar square myself.

 

Its all changed the last few months. The party is over for the most part, it was a very different story before.