Stupid ass bullshit

Im home alone for 3 days, and I went to my Grandmas to help her with something ALL FUCKING DAY. Ok, my damn grandma overheard my plans of going to a XBOX LAN party later that night (with no chaperones) and ordered me not to go, AND IM FUCKING 19 YEARS OLD!!! I went home to my house, and Speddy_20 did too, and he forwarded the calls from my house to his (the house of the party), little did I know, he had dial-up and his internet was on. :angry I could still be there if it wasnt for that! So my Grandma called CONSTANTLY with no luck, and called my dad on his Cell phone, and I brought mine, luckily, and he wanted to know where I was. He said I couldnt go, either. Like a lawyer, I got outta this one with no trouble, but it was still pretty gay.

 

You're 19... you can always move out.
Were you supposed to take care of your grand mother or something?

 

While I sort of disagree with your usage of the word "Gay" (which should generally imply something happy, and, in more recent times, very colourful - and not anything negative ever) - I can seriously agree with you in the fact that this is fucking stupid ass bullshit in all the terms of the word.

Let me tell you a story.
When I was about your age, which really wasn't that long ago (1999/2000), my best friend's parents were constantly on his case. While their intolerant behaviour was pretty much against anything my friend wanted to do or believe in, the three factors that were most repressed were 1) his friendship with me (a middle-class, non-white, non-catholic, sexually questionable, left-wing honour student), 2) his practice of videogaming, 3) his "commoner" girlfriend.
So these people were constantly snooping into my friend's room, taking away his stuff (his father destroyed his Sega CD and his Warhammer 40,000 figurines over a petty money-related argument, for example), grounding him for no reason, harassing him, and pretty much trying to run his life for him. They took his car and the watch his grandfather inherited him. They told him to stop seeing his "gay" friend (that would be me. I'm sort of straight, for the record) or else, and his grades suffered because of that (since, after all, he was no longer studying with the honour student). His parents intended for him to be the carbon copy of all stupid spoiled snobbish rich kids. He despised this- He never stopped being his own person. This took responsibility and lots of sneaky behaviour, but, in the end, he got more or less his freedom back, all with some serious arguments, but also with responsibility.
He, unfortunately, lost his girlfriend of five years thanks to his father's machinations, and he almost lost his best friend to the constant vigilance of a traitor neighbour of mine.
Until one day he stood up for his rights - and reminded his parents that he was an adult.
He's still alone, and probably will be for life, and we don't see much of each other anymore either, but now he no longer takes shit from anyone. He has even stopped his dad from being this way to his other siblings from time to time (but that man is a serious basket case that cannot be permanently stopped). He is a proud gamer, and a geek for life - and he does what he wants, but he also takes responsibility for his actions.

Maybe if you offer some sort of compromise, you can stop this from happening to you ever again. Show (I know) that you're a good, responsible adult - and in exchange, get more freedom. Talk to your authority units and discuss this matter.
Good luck.

Maybe, Mister Casual, you should have a serious talk with your parents as well - not threatening or doing anything rash. Just seriously talk to them and earn their trust.
You are an adult and you have to fend for yourself.

 

No. She takes good care of herself, but she is SOOO over protective.

Xerdopwerko, I seldom say "Gay" in that context on these boards nut thats only when I am VERY pissed off at something. No offense to anyone here...

Believe me, dude, I try. I get decent grades, never swear around them even when pissed by their nazi regime rules, NEVER got Detention once, EVER, and lots of other things that would normally make parents think of their child as an angel. I should have included that they let my bro do whatever the hell he wanted and he became an asshole (hes not anymore), and they dont want me to turn out that way. my mom trusts me, but she wouldnt say I could go in front of my dad for some damn reason. My dad also threatens to pawn all my games if I break a rule or something, too. My Grandma and my Dad are assholes, pretty much.

 

I didnt think she would give a shit. Im just not gonna tell anyone anything. But I do know my Grandma would call the house constantly asking me what Im doing, etc. I told her that I show off my game collection on the ASSEMbler message boards, and she thinks one of you know EVERYTHING about me cause

and someone was going to come over here and kill me. Old people that dont know shit about modern technology are so funny sometimes.

She heard some BS on 20/20 about a dumbass 13 year old girl that gave out her adress on the Internet, and got killed, and think people know where I live because of what my room looks like. Guess what? She doesnt want me on ASSEMbler anymore, now. :smt096

She can't stop me, but what do you guys think of such a retarded excuse? I know WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY much more about the Internet than she will ever hope to know, and she talks to me like she knows everything about it. She doesnt even know what the fucking adress bar is!!!!!

What do you guys think of her, now? Pretty dumb, right?

 

No, but she might as well live in the 1800s. She has a computer because it was "the thing" to have, but all it is is an expensive paperweight with no Internet connection. I live in the South but trust me when I say her case is unique. Old people are afraid of technology, nuff' said.

 

if you are 19...i think that means you are an adult.

 

I don't want to move out, but their rules are fucking stupid sometimes. They would just say when you move out, blah blah blah... blah....blah blah.....

 

His Grandma is a freaking idiot. She ruined our LAN party just because she does not want Mr. Casual to be "hanging out with bad people and drinkin". Yeah right, she's a dumbass.

Oh yeah, and it turned out to be a big waste of gas on my part, so I'm still pissed -_-

 

Last time she wanted me to go ( bowlin' ) instead of going to the other LAN party, and when I told her I was going to the LAN party she started to cry and said "you dont love me anymore!" Pity is her weapon to control. She trys to control you by making you feel like shit, but throughout the years I have built up an immunity to it.

 

I still went, but my Dad found out thanks to Speddy_20 leaving his internet on. I could have told everyone to shut up and listen to another of my Grandmas rants for 5 minutes and be done with it. But since the phone didnt ring, she got worried and called my dad on his cell, and I brought mine just in case they called, and he was all mad and shit saying "Where are you!? Your Grandma has been calling for the last 2 hours! Where are you?!!"
I lied and hauled ass home to make sure the police werent at home or something looking around or you know...I thought my Grandma might have sent people to check on me, too. But she didnt. I got home, fixed the call forwarding, and called her, and said the phone messed up. I got out of this one in one piece, but it made me VERY mad and bitter, as some of you can tell.

 

Yeah... I guess Assembler and I share a brain. I usually would put both situations in one hand and weigh out "the worst thing that could happen?" and then do it. In this case, piss off your family, but perhaps gain a chance to let them know that you're your own person, and won't take shit for no reason. Then again, I usually had a joint in one hand and some form of hallucinogen in the other. My mother would've orgasmed if I was going to LAN parties and drinking. (Ugh, the thought).

I hate to be the devil on your shoulder, but if you don't have a rebelious time in your life early on, there's a very good chance you fuck your life up. Seriously... statistically, everone's going to do it. The closer to 20 the better. Mine was between the ages of 18 and 25. .. ages 19, 22-23 would be in bold type if they were listed individually. I'm 30 now, and while I still want to go out for a blow-out every now and again, it's for the most part out of my system. Then again, my entire professional career was started in a country where it's okay to come in completely hung over from time to time.

 

Well, the worst that could happen to me is getting kicked out of the house or having all my stuff sold. Or grounded for months...

 

Would that be a bad thing? You don't plan on staying there forever do you? Are you from a really right-wing family? I've never heard of anyone getting grounded at 19. I did know a guy I played footaball with that got a spanking from his father when he was 16.

 

All your stuff sold?

Isn't it YOUR stuff? didn't you BUY it with YOUR OWN money?
I tell you what... taking people's property is not a way to show "discipline" or "order". It's robbery and I think, in your country, you could sue (let's hope this never happens ever ever ever, though)

Man, your situation is so much like my old friend's...
Are you attending college?
If not yet, choose one very far away.
It sounds like your parents still want to treat you like you're 11 and think they own you.
God, I feel so thankful my parents were too old to have children when they had me - and pretty much let me run amok and raised me like a communist hippie (when they were not on vacation).

Tell you what. I'm gonna call my friend and ask him for advice... and I'll tell you what he says - I hope I can be of more help, so ask me if you think of any way I can help you.

 

I can remember when I was 16 and brought home custards revenge for the 2600, yes we are talking the 80's, Anyways, my grandmother was down for a visit and I put it on. My mom went balistic till my grandmother told her to pipe down the game is exremely funny.

Anyways,..The reaction you recived to the lan party reminds me how people viewed and still view D&D parties.

 

Don't stress about it too much, dude. They are just being over protective. Finish up your degree and get out of there.