Due to some recent conversations in the shoutbox and recent events in my own life, I've decided to create this thread so fellow members can help those who need advice or can come looking for assistance in the world of dating. It can be for both online and offline dating. You can even post love life success stories as inspiration for others. Let's try to keep this civil guys and gals and follow all of ASSEMbler's rules. Remember that a lot of these things are just somebody's opinion. If you do not agree with it, it is ok, no need to harm others for it. Also, please be polite, kind, and respectful in here. Keep in mind that there are minors on this awesome site so please do not post mature content. That being said, let me start off the advice part. When it comes to finding love, there are many components. Two key components are patience and being yourself. The one that is right for you will come to you one day. It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, it may not be for several years down the road. If you just be yourself and wait, the right person for you will come. Waiting is simple in theory but it is excruciating in application. It is painful and it is hard. It may feel like it will never end but let me tell you something, waiting will pay off in the end. You will find the one that is right for you. The one that is right for you is one that will accept you for what you are and who you are. They will be there for you when you need them and they will love you no matter what happens. They will care for you when you are sick and when you are weak. They will be there for you when you are sad, for when you are feeling down, and for when you just need someone. They will comfort you when you are scared and when you are nervous. They will laugh when you laugh, cry when you cry, and most of all, they will just be there for you. That person is out there, you just have to find them. They may be in another country or maybe they have been in front of you the whole time. The ultimate component to a successful relationship is that your significant other or spouse should be your best friend. It also helps if you were best friends before dating, as it was with me and my beautiful and wonderful girlfriend. It is ok to be nervous, he worst thing they can do is say no. If they do and they show no sign of ever wanting to be your best friend or date, move on from them to somebody else. Hopefully it is someone who cares about you the same way you care about them. They may not love you at first but with time, they could very well end up dating you or even marrying you. Remember to be nice, be polite, and be respectful. You don't always have to go after the prettiest girls or the most attractive guys. The perfect one is not always the right one. I have a story I would like to tell but I'm going to wait until another time to post it. I hope this thread is a huge help to those who need it the most. If you have any advice or inspirational stories to share, please do so. If you need help in dating, do not hesitate to ask for help. I'm sure there are wonderful people on here who can help you through it. WARNING!!! DO NOT POST MATURE CONTENT IN THIS THREAD! Please refer to the Mature Content Rules before posting in here just to make sure it's safe. This thread is needed by a lot of people so please don't ruin it! Should you post something that violates the rules, your post will be deleted by a moderator. If you are not sure if your post violates the rules, you can view them here.
So who wants to hear about my bad luck with women? It's legendary, and may it serve as wisdom for you young ones searching for love. 2002- met a super cute girl on a dating site talked to her on the phone, she did foot fetish modeling weird yes.........but we really hit it off. However things were nuts when I met her but I told her we'd get together soon, I go to make plans with her, she moves to Maine with a guy she JUST MET. Dee- Dee what this super cute Hmong girl I met through an anime club. Definition of Cock tease, played my friend, flirted with me.........doesn't date either of us goes for this total dork who clearly had no interest in her. Total asexual dude from Singapore........ her dislike of me let me to getting kicked out of this anime club in the most diskish way possible, E-mailing my mother complete lies about me AT WORK. See it was a university anime club (Brown) and Brown is where my mother worked. So instead of taking up her problem with me directly............ she bitched out to my mother. Kate- Kate was this super cute girl I met through a friend, we really hit it off and I kept trying to get her to do shit with me, but she didn't want to and her reasons for not wanting to date me were total bullshit, like I wasn't a PS3 owner (at the time) or I watched Anime Subtitled, Seriously those were her hang ups with me. Christa- last one I can clearly remember before I just start rattling off excuses women have given me. Christa is quite a bit younger than me but we really hit it off. REALLY HIT IT OFF, her mother loved me (still does her mom and I are good friends) Her Father does not like me. She seemed to have hang ups about dating guys though. She did flat out make up a relationship to avoid dating me. THEN I found out what her real issue was.......... she's transgender and now livs in Kentucky as a man named Declan. That's all I can remember at 2 am. There are tons, TONS I am forgetting about. I forgot about the Chloe Grace Moretz look alike Julia who was the most amazing chick I'd ever met........but got cold feet when I finally asked her out and gave me the fakest hollowest She knew it and I knew it was bullshit "I have a boyfriend" in the history of lying about having boyfriends.
I can relate GoH - I've had some the funniest excuses for girls not to date me. One of them being "I'm sure I'm a lesbian" then sleeps a guy she disliked a few days after rejecting me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I had found love before, but as many have told me and I have found out people will be mostly different during a relationship. She just wasn't suitable for me. I'm in no rush to look for another lady right now, and possibly not for a while - I can do what I want when I want.
I've had countless "Pansexual" girls tell me they were lesbians. They turned into dragon ladies when I called them on that bullshit.
This thread isn't a bad idea. Let's just try to keep it from getting one-sided, as a lot of the users on here are men. Not to say men can't offer a different perspective. It can just be a bit more difficult. Expect me to be my usual self with this and call out stuff I don't like haha.
So what, just means they wasn't interested in you. You cant be mad that you arnt for them... like really dude
Not every girl likes to directly reject someone, and not everyone is good at making up valid excuses. If she made up a stupid story to not see you anymore, chances are high that she just wasn't into you and didn't have enough other reasons or isn't in the mood at that time to move on regardless. That doesn't mean she may not like you as a friend or conversation partner, but maybe just not as a potential partner they are both physically and emotionally attracted towards. According to my experience, girls who go on dates tend to think more long-term - as opposed to when you just chat up a girl at a party/bar/club etc. They know the situation, and that it may or may not be a spontaneous thing. If you ask a girl out for dates, they may think about whether they would like to be together with you for more than just a few weeks as a physical affair. And if that screening isn't successful you may receive some stupid excuse or whatnot, just move on. Try to speak the dating language and translate a "I can't date you because you have no PS3" as "I don't feel like dating you right now". There isn't really a difference, except that the direct approach sounds more hurtful I think. It's smoother for both to just understand the hint and continue the search. Best tip for this is to make things clear right from the start (call meetups 'dates', compliment her for what you like about her, et cetera. It'll accelerate things and save you from being too emotionally invested prior to a potential rejection.
Someone says they're not interested in any way, shape or form for any reason whatsoever = move on. It doesn't matter what reason is given, BS or not. If you sit there and make a scene, it makes you look desperate and foolish. Not only that, but a bully of sorts. It's as if what you say right then and there will completely change their minds. It makes no sense.
I should mention in Kate's case she never said any of this to me directly... Just in a long psychotic Facebook rant everybody but me saw
Exactly this. It's not worth making issues out of this, yes it's fine to ask why really it's your life too but not try and force them to change their mind. Usually if a girl shows no interest in me I pretty much ignore her after that.
Let's keep this alive with themed discussions... What do you believe is the hardest part of being in a romantic relationship?
It can get pretty tough to maintain the necessary six to eight hours of solitary gaming/Internet to 'wind down' after work every day.
Yep, relationships can really mess up your game play, first your head shot count goes down, then your level up rate goes down, just not worth it But seriously, like said before, be yourself, be patient, there's a nerdy gamer chic (or guy) for everyone. Some people are head cases who will selfishly mess u about but with experience you will learn to spot the signs early and cut them loose before u get hurt. Remember u are all beautiful people, and most of all, u make computer technology your bitch! Mainstream gamers wish they were as amazing as u.
