ok guys girlfriend dropped a hint about xmas. Its a couples thing in Japan right? I was thinking maybe a private onsen...with gift. Any suggestions? I am in Osaka at the moment!
Private onsens with girlfriends are very nice indeed. Find a nice one that has an onsen as part of the room and get dinner and breakfast in the room as well as some wine or sake and spend a romantic day indoors.
Don't underestimate how important that day is for local girls. Treat her nice that day and she'll treat you extra good during the night I'm sure. lol
Don't forget the gold rule: don't expect your physical gift to be worth much at all, no matter how much dough you dish out.
for her bday i got tickets to HK which she enjoyed a lot, and super expensive restaurants! I have to turn the notch down a bit for this one. The 25th is a weekday so im thinking maybe arima onsen on the 24th and 25th dinner If i buy a gift hopefully it is memorable and useful - she did say she likes chandeliers. She is a cute girl who likes cute things.
She mentioned that there will be a rush of weddings among her friends now (she's 24) as they want to be married before 25, the next rush is 30 I heard. My Japanese teacher said its ok to ask what she wants for XMAS. She said she doesn't need anything .... She lost her vivienne westwood pass holder a little while ago and in it was a l'arc en ciel card with a serial number that had her bday. She really liked it but I dont think ill be able to find that l'arc en ciel card due to my poor Japanese..
No, 30 is the absolute deadline. That's how fucked up the culture is here. This place has such cougar-potential, but they all wind up going and eating cakes together on Sunday instead of going out looking for dick on Saturday night b/c all the guys want to fuck 16 year old retards that hold up the peace sign and make a duck mouth every time they see something resembling a camera. ...and then another foot goes into the grave, as the birth rate declines... AGAIN. Sorry, I'm cynical about everything. Not saying it for any other reason than I have a few friend girls that, I hate to say, are done unless they move to the west.
I have seen some nice cougars around - naughty looking ones.... but you are right they do hang around eating cakes. That's the culture, coffee shops and sweets with girlfriends and talk endlessly.
Man, that is the obvious hint right there. Of course, she doesn't need "anything". You will have immense disappointment on your hands if the ring is not there for Xmas...
I am sure that question will pop up from her at some point..."where are we going....blah blah" . I dont mention weddings on purpose! I have a trip to philippines with her soon.....lots of free time and nothing to do so it might come up Luckily she said she doesnt want kids yet because she wants to enjoy a bit more
My Japanese teacher (woman) said 27 is sort of a deadline. She said there's some expression in Japanese for the case some girl is27 and single: you're the "last piece of the birthday cake" (that no one wanted) or something like that, lol.
27? It used to be 25, as Christmas Eve is on the 24th and Christmas on the 25th, and no one wants to eat the infamous クリスマス ケーキ after the 25th, being an analogy for women. However, that sentiment is a bit outdated and is now generally placed around 30.
This statement is correct. As an undergrad, I did research on this topic and found that the underlying reason deals with the fact that more women are joining the workforce and have no desire to get married immediately in their mid-20s. To answer the main question in the topic, at least for next year, I'd take her to the nearest KFC and get her some Colonel.
For xmas just took her to an expensive restaurant and gave her flowers. The day before we had a discussion..basically I dropped the bomb that I might be moving back to Tokyo for a job in Ginza. You might think crap move just before xmas but it was in a middle of another emotional discussion. Anyway - the discussion now is about whether she will move with me. We also brought up the 25 xmas cake thing so its definitely still a consideration and whilst she says its ok not to be married for the next year or two she doesnt want to be near 30 and having to look around.. Shame i love Osaka ...now looking for a half decent place thats not too expensive with good access to Ginza..sheesh that will be tough
