Genderdysphoria

Sounds like an incredible journey!

I don't often refer to people as 'he' or 'she' on the boards but I'll definitely keep it in mind from now on.

 

HEY! I haven't posted in a while but being a girl in the forums (albeit absent for a long time) I applaud you and your courage to come forward with that.

It's none of our business what you do, and none of us here is in a position to be judgemental; still, it's very brave of you to "come out" and tell everyone.

It is part of your identity and it makes you the person you are today. Congratulations!
You have all of our support.

 

Segafreak_NL: I am very well aware of what gender dysphoria is. So whether you feel you want to call yourself a trans gendered person, or a gender dysphoric person. Then understand this, transsexualism is in reality not a sexuality. It comes from the old word "sex", which again is another word for gender. And why I am aware of what it is. is because I have a few trans gendered friends. One is a FtM TG, the others are MtF TG´s. And I call them what gender they want to be called as. So Segafreak_NL , if you feel like a woman. Then you are a woman. And if you feel you are a man, then you are a man. But then again the LGBT family of "umbrellas" are a big one. Cause in the "T" umbrella, there are gender queers, transgendered and what not. So if any one tries to be LGBT phobic towards you, here on the forum. I will be perhaps defending you in so many ways that you would be perhaps a bit embarrassed by my passion, and stuff like that. When I defend some one. Hell, I have been bullied on this forum years ago. because I was so open mouthed about my stance upon defending the LGBT rights of people. Hell I would even say harassed by people, who does not need to be mentioned. Unless they think about starting their bloody shenanigans again.

Sexuality is more about whom you are attracted to, than what gender you feel. That you are, and you can be anything from heterosexual to omni/pansexual . Even if you have gender dysphoria.

Segafreak_NL: if you need to know people who has gender dysphoria . I do have some people you could talk to about it. One of them saved my life (psychologically) some years ago, and if it had not been for her. I would probably had bought the ticket back then. So if you need some contacts, I can probably give you some, and if you need links. I can probably also give you some, in a PM.

 

In Chinese it's similar. There is no "He" or "She". You just refer to people as a person. It's also one of the reasons there are so many complaints about bad English subtitles on Chinese films, as many times the translators won't know if the person is a "He" or "She" and has to just take a guess. Because in many cases without seeing the person, film, or context, it's impossible to tell who you're referring to. As you can imagine, Chinese isn't the easiest language to translate.

 

I am pleased for you and all the best.

 

I just hung out at a con all weekend with a friend of mine from college who's getting her operation to become a man. Her and her GF are adorable together. Good luck

 

Correct me if I'm wrong and going off-rails here... but Kevin is partly Chinese... at least that's my impression from day one.

 

Actually that whole ''no noun for female or male in Chinese'' only applies to spoken Chinese, as one would still use a female 她 or male 他 character when writing.

 

Couldn't something be done forum-wise to show that a member is male or female...pink and blue user names for example?.....your very brave segafreak, I've seen the abuse gay people get and I could only imagine the amount of negativity people show you because of there ignorance.

 

Congratulations on building up your identity in the forums, specially in the world we live on. You're very brave.

Honestly I don't think anyone here is immature enough to harass other members about anything on their personal lives, anyone does that and I'm sure it's just a matter of seconds before Assembler ban their IP forever.

 

thats great, always be yourself, no matter what anybody says

 

truer words have never been spoken.

 

I'm not usually one for necroposting, but this is a subject close to my heart and I've never spoken about its relevance to me openly before now (well, on here, at least)...

While it's not something I'd like to hijack this thread with, the fact is that I joined this message board at a point in my life when I was forced to abandon my own transition, having identified as trans* to some degree since I was still in single figures!

To be honest, whether through distractions such as being so active online or volunteering and even battling with potentially life-threatening illnesses, I've spent the last 12 years avoiding a certain issue, which I've only been comfortable enough to address recently.

I came out to my long term partner back in September, and over the holidays I finally revealed everything to my immediate family, with my next move being to continue telling others close to me, hopefully attending a local LGBT pride event this August.

If you want to know more about my story, you can read a condensed version here:

https://www.youcaring.com/allie-rose-kelly-495275

 

Congratulations, I'm very happy for you! It's been close to five years since my SRS and 9 since my 'coming out'. I have little to no regrets. Yes, it has been difficult at times, but it brought me so much good it doesn't compare. All the best!