Life and what I'm going to do about it

Normally I wouldn't make a thread on something like this, since I try to keep personal business personal. This is kind of a big deal for me, though, since I'm basically shit out of luck by the end of the month if I don't figure out what I'm going to do.

My original plan was to stay in town and get an apartment with someone. This is probably the worst idea ever, since I'm trying to get away from here. I was influenced by my (then) girlfriend; she didn't tell me to stay here, but I didn't want to go off to college somewhere when I could just do the community college thing here. I cannot express how stupid I think this was, and I'm very glad that I've eliminated this option.

I was attempting to get into Appalachian State University, but I was denied for the fall semester (again, due to my stupidity/laziness; I sent my transcripts off entirely too late). I'm being considered for the spring, but that doesn't help me at all right now.

My current plan of action is to try to look for an apartment in Asheville, get a job, and survive until I'm accepted at App. If I could fit community college in here, that would be great, but supporting myself and going to school doesn't really sound plausible considering the type of job I'd have to get.

Also, I really didn't mean to come off like an alcoholic in VA's thread. I'm not depressed (right now), just kind of worried. I got over the whole girlfriend thing pretty quickly when I realized how stupid it all was. I'm more upset over the fact that she was one of my closer friends and things didn't exactly go well (I haven't talked to her in about a week and I don't know when or if things will get back to "normal"). It kind of made me realize how much I need to leave here and experience life, rather than go to a university thirty minutes away from my house.

I'm getting drunk/high because it's a time killer, and it makes me feel better. I don't consider myself in any danger of becoming an alcoholic/addicted to anything. I'd like to think I have a good head on my shoulders, though, so cut me a little slack

I hate to make a thread on all of this, because it almost feels like I'm whining. I'm just confused, really, and kind of anxious as to what's going to happen.

 

In my experience, it's hard to get back into the swing of school once you've stopped going... even for a semester. You're right though... the further the better.

 

Just about everyone experiences this... a girl ends up steering your life decisions against your "will" (for lack of a better word). I am sure the same happens to women. But you learn, with time, what you really want out of life.

 

Girls are just like everything else : things if they behave like that. Dont worry about yourself making the right opinion about her..courage man! Take time, because such things need time..Get yourself a job, get yourself off of alcoholics & drugs (well not completely ). Party is fun only if it doesnt get too much. Keep going, enjoy this time as a vacation in your life !

 

Looks like everyones having problems. Today my stepdad flipped out at my mom and I showed up after it. It was pretty stressful. Apparently since I'm 18 he thinks he's allowed to hit me or something so I guess I'm not going to be around him for awhile. I dunno. Sorry man.

 

I'm not saying it's the right thing to do, but if you're around his size and I was in your position I'd probably beat the piss out of him for laying a finger on me. This could get you into trouble, though, and I've dug enough holes for myself without trying to counsel someone else.

I'm not really sure what I expected out of posting all of this. I guess I'm looking for guidance, but I know none of you really know the ins and outs of my situation.

Problems between me and my ex-girlfriend are really the least of my worries, although I hope we work something out someday. I considered her a good friend and I'm not at all pleased with how everything went. We're both pretty mad at each other and I don't know if "time heals all wounds" or not.

As far as moving, the worst case scenario would probably be me moving from apartment to apartment in Greenville, which is almost as bad as where I am now. I went to East Carolina University last semester, so I have a fair amount of friends up there who are getting apartments. Again, I'm trying to go in the opposite direction (Asheville/Boone), so this would basically be taking a step backwards.

The only consolation I have in this is that once I get away from where I am now and am financially stable (at least enough to live), I'm halfway where I need to be.

I have no idea why I'm writing all of this. Makes me feel better I guess?

 

i guess the best thing for you to do at the moment is try and look for somewhere to stay maybe even shortlist a few good places so you don't rush into anywhere and then support yourself with a job.

Once your in an apartment and have a job then i am sure waiting till spring for university/college isn't that bad as ling as yor supporting yourself

 

I'm really not too experianced in this kinda situation, but I'd suggest staying with a good friend, someone who can properly open up to and talk to, no matter where they are in town. If it's cool with them, crash there for a few months, help with the rent and chores, and get a full time job to save for your future and education.

 

I'm kind of on the same boat man. But my story is a little more uh....interesting.

I actually collect disability for a Disability I don't even have. Lord knows how/why long story short becuase my brother and sister are autistic some genius figured I must have some form of it too and decided I have Aspergers which is total bullshit. All the symptoms for Aspergers I have
fit many various anxiety/depressive disorders. But I digress BUT becuase
everybody THINKS I have this I make $680 a month tax free.

It's not great money but since I don't pay taxes or have many bills besdies dental and sometimes helping my parents out when they need money I have quite a bit to toss around.

BUT someday I'm going to have to give the free money up and actually do something with my life. That's were I'm lost I'd love to do some writing maybe some acting something in the arts but that's not easy.

I don't have patience to go back to school I'd just like to jump into something and start making money. I've considered investments and learning from my dad but he's been skimping me on lessons.

I've held jobs before, I was a Janitor for a summer camp, Worked a college kitchen.......they paid shit and I hated it.

In some ways I'm lucky I get free money for a misdiagnosis On the other hand meenwhile the REAL disorder I have is undiagnosed and I go though quite a few depressive fits that almost shut me down. I had one in 2003 for a month. Things is I never know when they'll hit. But I digress. I also just really have no idea what to do with my life. When ever I think about it I'm just over whelmed.

So that's my deal. I'm not complaining or whining or asking to be felt sorry for. Some of it's my fault some of it is my parents fault some the school system I came from that failed to recognize what was really wrong with me. It happend for a reason. I'm only sharing this because we all have issues
and I have some really big ones yet I keep my head held up high and hope one day I'll wake up and have the drive to say FUCK IT I'm going to see if there's a job out there for me.

If I can keep my head up through all that shit then I'm sure you can deal with what you're going through.

I do have my ordainment to fall back on of course. But nobody thinks of me first when they want to get married.

 

Damn...........you guys make my problems look like some little issues that arent worth solving at all...

I'm not saying that my life is perfect, but after reading this I feel like I've nothing to worry about.

Indeed: I went homeschooling during my twelfth grade cuz I was fucking sick of all the problems I had with my principal (and his fucking daughter which was making my life impossible at the time) so the next year when I went to college 1000 miles away from home it was really hard having to manage my schedule all by myself (thats is cooking, paying the bills, buying food, laundry, etc...) and I almost end up being another drop-out.

Dunno, it was too much stress at the same time, like going from 0 to 60 in just a sec.

Hey no pro bro, just try to keep things under control so if you need to quit it you can do it easily and without help from others.

I've been writing 4 books since 2005: 3 novels, all of them about past history and 1 about my personal opinions of society and the world today, kinda like Umberto Eco's books.

I've also considered writing some scripts since its a hell of a lot easier than writing a book (specially with the "quality" of movies these days) and even directing or acting, but I dont really see myself in the showbusiness enviroment, with all that shallowness. There, is all down on how you look, and quite frankly I'm not trendy at all, and I can barely (as in "barely not punching in the face") stand the kind of stupid and illiterate people that works in that enviroment, specially when they try to actually look smart...

And yeah we all dream about making/inventing something and becoming millionaires, but the odds are pretty low, even for upper-middle class kids.

If I ever become a professional writer, I'll be thankful if I can make a decent living out of it, but I dont expect to become rich like rowling or brown did...

 

I'd just like to move the fuck out of this butthole I live in now and go back to Montana or something. I dunno, lots of family problems are going on, along with the fact were stuck in.....a butthole town. Money rules everything I guess.

 

Gotta love how our government works. People without any true need get, while people like my dad who work their whole life and wear themselves out contributing (my dad had major back surgery including the removal of some disks) cant get anything.


And for those of you with your issues, I know the feeling. You just have to take a step back and find yourself. Ask yourself "Why the hell do I need to make myself miserable?", since most of the time, its all in your head. You can a great saleman, being able to convince people of whatever you want, but in order to be the greatest, you have to be able to convince yourself.

 

I feel for your dad borman I'm sure if he files with the right agency he can get some benifits. It's like the lottery only in this one you just have to know who to ask for the money.

The real reason I get the money I do is because when I turned 18 I didn't have any heath coverage and my mom was concerned and figured if I got SSI I'd get Medicade as well thus Free health care it doesn't cover eye and dental which is what most of my non spare money goes but anything else I need done it covers it. All becuase I was misdiagnosed wtih a disorder I don't really have. (and I have a few ideas as to the one I do)

Issues in your head........hmmmm I could tell you some things I've been through man Oh I could tell you some stories.

 

Trust me, we try Lawyer and all that stuff. We dont have health coverage either, after my dad worked until he was 55ish when he physically couldnt anymore. So now we get the screw job while I see others who have gotten money and healthcare due to some "major injury" scamming the system and being able to do everything they could before. My dad cant even stretch, I know its not your fault, Im just poking on the wonderful healthcare and issues in the US.

 

Through the wonders of Craigslist (hah) I've found a possible place to stay. I'm crossing my fingers...

 

Taemos, firstly, settle your financial issues and then worry for all the rest. Logic over emotions

 

Maybe it's a New York state thing?

My guess it your luck depends on the state you live in.

 

A break is not such a bad thing if you go for deferred entry. If you get an offer for Spring, ask for it to be held until September next year. If you have that banked and a set plan then you are less likely to get stuck. Then in the year you have available use it to either travel a little, get a job in something interesting/unique that you wouldn't want to do forever or just work your ass off in something you hate to build up a warchest for uni (if funds are really a big issue). From experience I would not recommend starting in a college mid year. A lot of people will have settled into cliches and social groups that usually form at the start of the year and you'll feel more unsettled joining in midway through. It makes the start of college a lot harder. Far better to be dropped in it when everyone else is, IMO.

Getting drunk/stoned is the worst thing you can do to pass the time. Not only is it bad for you in the long term, it promotes a mentality of laziness/procrastination (which you admit is a problem). Make this move into a new place one that is away from those distractions. Don't move in with people that are into that kind of lifestyle. Decide exactly what you want to be/do with your life, work out a plan to achieve it (i.e. graduate in college, I need lots of money) then use that as motivation to lever yourself out of the hole you're in. A shit job you hate seems much better than you have a definite end in sight and the money you're saving is going towards a long term goal.

See the coming time as an escape plan.

 

I ll also agree with Taucias. Drugs (even alcohol) for recreation are one thing, but seen as a solution they can set you back in your life. Do what you have to do as soon as you can do it, and don't feel sorry for yourself, life's about finding solutions to complex problems.

 

Not to worry if you really want to get on track you will. I have been there and now do very well. I remember i hated High school so graduated early just to get out. after that took odd jobs. I also remember I would work a few days week just so the buddies and me could blow it all on road trips. Never knew were I was staying from day to day. I ended up renting an apartment but that was more a crash pad a bunch of us contributed for. In the end ended up as a tow driver and worked that for a few years till the truck I was driving was wrecked by two cars and messed up my back. Needing a new career and realizing I was getting in my late 20's I finally went back to school and picked up were I left off years ago. Since then I have worked in the computer and Electronics field for over 10 years achieved a MBA and working on a second Masters.

Enjoy life it is way to short and dont let the girls get you to far off your own objectives and you will be fine