What would you do in my situation?

You're a youngster, right? An almost identical story happened with my best friend's parents, except the break up was all kinds of nasty. The sons didn't talk to her for quite a while, but eventually came around.

Don't listen to what anyone else says: you gotta make the decision. But remember, both your parents have the right to be happy even if the method in which they attain it is shitty.

Hope it all works out.

 

What I'm trying to convey to him is that if he doesn't even TRY to make things work with his mom, he will end up regretting it.
The fact that his mom cheated on his dad doesn't necessarily mean that she fucked up Graciano's life... It's just not like that. I don't believe he should stop talking to his mom. If I were him I would give a second opportunity to his mom to try to at least mend wha't's broken in that relationship.
I agree that the fact of someone having the label MOM doesn't necessarily make that person entitled to that label; but I wouldn't throw away such an important relationship because of a small series of mistakes the woman made.
If she keeps on making those mistakes, fine, discard her. But I wouldn't be too quick to do that-

 

I understand there's nothing I can do to change the situation I'm in. Things are out of my control. I also understand that there's always someone out there who's got it worse than me.

What my mom wants more than anything is to keep her relationship with her kids. I just don't want to give her what she wants and pretend like everything is ok when it's definitely not.

I really do appreciate all the responses. The only reason I asked the question on here in the first place is because I know there's a lot of members here, with very different views, and very different opinions. I just needed to hear some things from different people instead of the same old things from people I talk to day in and day out.

 

I'm very sorry to hear that - that's a very hard situation and i hope all the best for you.

Your parents have to know what to make out of situation. From what little i read here i think it's already clear how things will solve.

Best thing you could do is take care of yourself and show your parents what you think of them. If you're angry about your mother you should show here that. It's a free world and of course she has the right to do what she thinks is best for her. But if it's on your cost you are free to show that, too.

I'm not an "afterall it's family" supporter. There's a day to pay for your decisions - even for family.

 

I'd totally take the biggest crap on the mom if I was in that situation. I mean, I wouldn't talk with her, I wouldn't visit, I wouldn't do jack. In fact, I'd do everything in my power to seperate the previous life from reality as it stands now.

 

I don't like this, "Oh, it's her choice, you gotta respect it" nonsense. Graciano's mom isn't showing humility in this situation. She wants to have her cake and eat it too...

"My mom cheated on my dad with a long time family friend of ours. My dad chose to forgive her and our friend but our friend was not allowed to see my mom or have anything to do with us. My mom then moved out and the man she cheated with helped her move into an apartment about 3 mins from his house."

Assembler put it best:
"Well she chose her own happiness over duty to her family.

I have a pal who had the same thing happen.

I would refrain from any rude words about your mother, but I would cut her off. She obviously has no interest in her old family."

 

I've never been through this kind of situation, but you can't do anything about it for now, it's out of your reach, I think you should stay away from your mom for a while and focus on your own personal goals for now, help your dad, finish school and everything else.

Time will tell you what to do.

 

My brother fucked me over in the worst way.


So we had a long talk, and I told him I wouldn't see him for a very long time.

After a month of not speaking, everything seemed to straighten itself out. We're not the best friends that we used to be (in fact since I've only seen him once to give him the phone bill, and once getting driven home, drunk, I decided I should go visit him and we shared a few laughs and updates on life).

Just let her know why you're doing whatever you decide to do, give her a hug, and then be on your way. Sometimes you can make the biggest impact by saying the least.

A family, (IMO) is a unit. That's why it's a singular noun. Kids, and then their mother and father (or m&m/f&f), are together as one piece.
I say this, because I don't think it would be fair for her to sever part of the whole (her->your father) and be able to keep you (at least in the same way) as well.

See her on the holidays for a short time.