Japanese women compatible with western men in the long term?

The change of moving between the US and Europe is much less drastic than moving from Japan to the USA IMO.
Especially in the long turn, people tend to get homesick. Much depends on your partner too, and the effort you put into learning about her/his culture, background, language,... Also, marriage is a smaller step than moving to a different part of the world.

An international marriage can either turn out to be interesting and engaging, or disappointing and draining (or a bit of both).

 

from several people on this board,i heard japanese women can be bitches....

 

Been married to a Japanese for 7 years and lived here for 11. I'm not home sick at all. The thing that pisses me off is the total lack of seeing facts that benefit them yet refuse to change. Or just out right denying something because it doesn't fit in with their views.

Yakumo

 

from several experiences in my live, i felt european women can be bitches....

word yakumo. been no married 10 years (soon) and 5 years (soon) in japan. not homesick as well, but when we lived in swiss, it was quite different to her. so i guess, if i didn't decide to move here, we won't be together today. but who knows.

 

I don't think you can say girls from one particular place are bitchier than those from others. It just depends on the person really.

My Japanese girlfriend and I broke up cuz neither of us wanted to move to the others' country. In the end, it was a good decision for both of us.

Now I have a German girlfriend and she's a bit similar to my ex. I guess it's just because I like a particular type of woman. ^^

Which is funny, cuz usually Japanese women think that Switzerland is the most awesome and kawaii place on earth. :lol:

 

Being separated from family is ultimately the hardest thing when moving to another country, especially when a large ocean is involved. Cultural changes you can adapt to, but being so far away from family is very tough for most people.

 

yup - another one here - been in Japan for over 9 years, been with wife for 8.5 years , married for 3.5. Extremely happy.

BUT - the wife is half (Portuguese/Japanese) and she's not very Japanese in her attitudes so i'm not sure i can comment on the question in hand. We get on like a house on fire, i couldn't be happier.

 

it is indeed, as long you refer to the environment and not to the peeps :nod:

 

Although funnily Japanese and Swiss people are quite similar: both very traditional, fussy, and in love with themselves. :110:

 

In my opinion if cultural differences get in the way you shouldn't be married in the first place. I for one respect and encourage cultural differences in a spouce. The act of marriage is to share and complete each other while making each other better with each passing day. It makes no sense to me why cultural or religion or race would get in the way of a marriage it is a way to experience new things. As a matter of fact I respect the Japanese for glorifying simplicity and hospitality. How does that get in the way of anything? If anything I would encourage cultural differences, it should be a shared adventure not a road block. But what do I know, I am still young.

 

This has some deep-rooted cultural aspects, as well as estrogen-driven ones as well. There's no fine line on where the problem rises. But, we could go on for pages and pages about why the above complaint holds true for the country as a whole, and specifically the government. I personally think long-term Japan residence is seeming less and less enjoyable due to the government not choosing to do the one thing evolution has taught us a civillization has to do to survive: adapt.

As for the topic at hand, I'll just say the obvious that it's far too broad and short-sighted to have any real insight added. Doesn't mean it's not a worthwhile discussion. Divorce rate in the US is about 50%. I don't know what constitutes long term in the scope of this thread, but I only know of two westerners that have either gone through a divorce, or are in the process. One of those is a marriage of 7 years. Not sure how long the other would've lasted, but I would've divorced the man if I was in her shoes. The other was just typical reason for divorce: they wanted different things as they got older.

EDIT: I can think of a couple of others. One was pretty amicable (and civilized). She even helped her husband get PR during the divorce. The other was a nasty one, and is a typical "this is why you don't marry a Japanese woman" examples. I still don't think it's unique to Japanese women. They all have a psychotic side if you dig down deep enough.

 

You mean gaijin/Japanese marriage, or marriages in general? To be fair, most of my friends aren't really at an age where they'd be married more than 10 max, and usually 5 seems kind of long, assuming you'd get married between 28 and 32.

To further get a proper idea of the issue, you'd need to break down the statistics on how much time was spent in the spouse's country, does one speak the other's language, etc. These are all massive factors in a cross-cultural marriage.

 

great book! The TV Series was also not bad.

about the Topic...
Girls can be bitches, no matter from where they are. If they see something where they THINK it is better, you are fucked!
I have to deal with that at the moment... *puke*

 

Remember if a Japanese woman can break up the Beatles think of what one can do to your personal life.

 

God has an indisputable fact.

 

Only she didnt break them up and GOH is always full of shit and doesn't know what he's talking about

 

There's always that.