Question about first dates and the process, please.

It sure does.

 

See above

 

I'm just a little disappointed but that's expected. Not that I didn't believe you Bad_Ad8.

Thanks for all the support guys, I learn't a lot from this as well...Oh well maybe next time.

 

You just aged me by 76 years

 

Why such a specific number? LOL.

 

84 - 8 = 76

 

OH FAIL!!! ROFL, Man I feel like an idiot right now. XD

 

Got a reply guys, she said she was really busy and mentioned "maybe another time" then again no actual set date. Blown off is my guess here.

 

Your guess is right. Forget her, you would be surprised how easy it is to forget people if you make sure to get back in the game.
(of course only if no serious emotions were involved)

 

Texting, emailing or what ever you young people pass off as communications someone to arrange a date gives people too much time to think about things, the best way is to ring them up and try and arrange something there and then. If they are busy then apologise quickly (as in "Okay, it is a bad time" and not "Oh I am really sorry...", tell them you will call back later and hang up (if they keep saying they are busy then say that you think they are trying to avoid you, tell them to call you and never call them back). Else be confident and arrange a coffee or drink, suggest a few days and times, just put them on the spot. It is a waste of time and money doing anything else, coffee or a drink gives you enough time to talk to them without it costing money and allows you to extend the date if it does go well and not if it does not.

 

Jamtex hit it right when he said about putting them on the spot. But right now I'd guess your best shot is to forget her and move on.

 

Yeah, it's always good to start things by asking them in person. However, it CAN work via texting/facebook/dating sites too, but from my experience it is a bit harder because in fact they can think about their decision as long as they think they need, which makes it more likely that they decide against you based upon certain biases or preconceptions.

 

Oh well, it was worth a shot. If I had her number I would of called instead but only had facebook

 

Next time be sure to pick up her cellphone number, because it is clear (as stated in above posts) that you gave her enough time to think about it. Better luck next time, one can't learn something without trying.

 

Next time you're at the bar and in a similar situation and there's a girl you might be interested in hanging out with, try just asking for her number right then and there. Sending a friend request over Facebook is like... a no go for me. Personally, I never add anyone on Facebook, they add me. hahaha, but you know what I mean? "Oh, I met you last night and now i'm Facebook stalking..." probably isn't the best way to ask a girl out, even in this day and age.

I'm still somewhat undecided on calling vs texting. If it's your first time contacting a girl after you've gotten her number, I think i'd definitely call. But if you've talked already, shooting her a quick text to hang out is usually fine. YOU JUST GOTTA GET THOSE DIGITS MAN. And don't get them off of Facebook........

 

Will remember next time, thanks

 

Dating sites can work but you have to make sure that you are interesting, as a woman will read your profile and base her conceptions on you via that, as a general rule the hotter women tend not to play video games that much. When you do contact someone that you keep it brief, the aim is to try and meet her and not give her your life story via 3 or 4 messages.

Always ask for her mobile phone number, never give her yours as she will not call you and anything else is generally a waste of time. When you do get it, always test it by saying "Have mine, I will just call you..." then at least that way you know she has given you the right number.

As they say, plenty more fish in the sea, not very many women but lots of fish...

 

I don't really trust dating sites that much, I wouldn't bother with those normal ones possibly nerdy ones which believe it or not exists. Only in the US though, found none in Australia.

Not sure if anyone else has felt this way, but I find it's a lot easier for me to start conversations with similar interests. It would be a lot more interesting and fun for me and the woman I find. I don't want to date just for the sake of it...