I'm not really worrying but, I kinda feel out of place as nearly everyone I know have at least had a relationship at some stage.
Has anyone of you ever encountered (i.e. dated for a while, then she told you) a girl who wouldn't sleep with anyone before marriage? This is a first for me, hahah! Seriously, what a dealbreaker, I'll give this a while and see how it goes but I'm not gonna live like a monk for this entire relationship so it's either gonna be a breakup or score. I really like her, but it's not like I couldn't just find someone else with whom I could establish something closer and more fulfilling since I do believe that this is a very big and absolutely necessary part of a relationship. What do you think? It's not because of religion, it's more like a strict Asian upbringing thing... she's been in two relationships before, 6 and 14 months. I admire (or pity) those guys. hahah
Dang. Sounds like a bummer. If girls are like that, which is not always a bad thing, they wont change unless they reach their goal, in this case marriage. best of luck
That's unfortunate. If she was Mormon you could always convince her to try soaking. Maybe she's one of those that will give up the butt before marriage?
And once again I had to urban-dictionary something you said, but no, she's not. I think Asian mormons are really rare. I'm kind of tempted to abandon the idea of having a relationship with her - she slowly begins asking for commitment from my side, making it official, but that would mean the end of my sex life. What a paradox if you think about it. She's absolutely inexperienced, as in ZERO theoretical know-how (can you imagine that?), but it's not like she wasn't interested, just super shy/reluctant "Asian". And then there's me, the manwhore who adores Charles Bukowski and Henry Miller like a religion and passionately researches on everything related to sex culture and history. Lol In May, she will go back to her home for 4 months until September. I feel like I should not commit, but shouldn't dump her either since I actually like her as a person (I also could absolutely imagine a relationship with her if the intimate part was there). I steered myself in a bit of a complicated situation.... how immoral would it be to not officially start a relationship until September so I can sleep around in the meantime without feeling bad and cheating on her? Of course I wouldn't tell her that... I'd kind of regret missing out on the entire summer for, yeah, for I don't know what exactly. I need some guy advice here, my best friend said I should dump her but he's a manwhore so not sure if legit. Lol
So I've been going out with this girl for about 16 months. I'm still in high school and don't know how the fuck we've stayed together so long. I can tell she hasn't been happy and i haven't been either. I asked her about it tonight and we both feel the exact same way. We love each other to death but are just bored. Nothing is exciting anymore. I'm going off to college, shes staying here. I know that's not going to work. But, If you would have asked me 1 month in if I would be with this girl for a year, I would have said fuck no. We both are thinking about an open relationship. Me and her both can't handle the idea of seeing each other with someone else. I'm tempted to just break it off now while there is still something between us than drag it out until we hate each other.
A long distance relationship during your college first year... dude, you'll end up either cheating on her or hating your life.
yea i know it wont work. I just feel like an old married man. Ideally, I want to stay friends, go home hang out with her, have her come up to mizzou every now and then. Like have a location based relationship. Whenever we are within 50 miles of each other shes my girlfriend and I'm her boyfriend lol. I just wish there was something I could find to not make me jealous and have her try to do the same.
I wouldn't commit. Some girl in my class says shes never had sex with her boyfriend of two years. God damn he must be a douche bag. I couldn't imagine that. I'd just tell her straight up you can't deal with her being gone 4 months. When she comes back see where things go.
If you guys don't freak out about it you could always suggest a FWB change of rules. However, you'll have to be cool that she'll be open to other guys, too... and eventually fall in love with one and leave you (same could happen to you, of course). I couldn't do this if I feel something for the girl because I have quite a jealous personality, but I met people who are okay with it. Hell, one girl I met had a FWB boyfriend and this guy had another gf and this gf had another bf and... infinity, probably. Haha, well, maybe he is a virgin too and really shy? I know that some of my Asian friends (intl. students from China) have relationships of 1+ year and they haven't slept with their GFs yet because they are too shy to make a move and the girl is the same. They are probably also doing the premarital taboo rule thingy... When a guy or a girl isn't a virgin anymore, I think no one would have the patience anyway, apart from that there's no point... I will probably not commit, but I'll suggest that we should continue going out in September. I dunno what I'm up to in the meantime, but I'll be in Germany, France and Vancouver all the time and being commited to a long-distance relationship for 4 months (while we are just going out for a bare 1.5 months) doesn't seem very good to me.
THIS It SUCKED !!!!!!!!!!!!!! After 4 years of that, me flying down every 2 months or so, she flying up etc.. Was fun for a little while but I would never, ever recommend it. Needless to say it didn't work and though we are friends still that's all we are.
I've been doing great with my lady. Not the same lady you may have seen me emptying my guts over about a year ago. That's well and done. Today is my birthday and this weekend we're going to Lawrence/Kansas City. Gonna see a sweet new aquarium and.... LEGO LAND. Fuck yeah. Sorry to be so positive. Even after the worst, which I feel I have been through, great things will happen. You just have to wait for them, and know they will be there when you can handle it. You may think you need it most, now, but at that point you're probably doing the most growing and I find that to be essential for your upcoming endeavors of all kinds.
Happy Bday. And if you don't get a BJ after all that, then I'm worried about you. And, this... http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xo797x_upstais_fu
Doesn't seem like the guy is getting much out of the deal, I'd much rather have the expensive jewelry/trip(or cash equivalent) than the blowies. 4 blowies, a $1000 necklace/trip. That's $250 a blowie.
My bad, not only that but with anal. <*works it out on a calculator*> Yeah, probably a pretty good deal, considering access to her rusty sheriffs badge.
Has anyone here any experience dating Chinese girls? As in, a girl that has lived all her life in China... not sure about cultural barriers here. ^^ According to the cultural chart of one of my classes, German and Chinese culture are the exact opposite in terms of emotional context significance. Whatever that means... Anything to obey, taboos that I shouldn't say/bring up but seem normal to me as a Western person? ^^ Oh, and why are so many Chinese girls Christian? As in, they have a bible in their room
