don't put too much pressure on getting in a relationship again...you'll be in plenty of relationships and some are lucky enough to end up with one for life but not everyone will and you shouldn't depend on that for happiness. Friends and "friends with benefits" are great for the time between relationships....oh yeah...and gaming/collecting/hanging out with friends helps a lot. When I'm feeling down I like to look up old friends that I haven't talked to in a while (high school/college). Just the old stories alone from the past are enough to make you laugh and get your mind off everything else.
You are so true in those words, and woman has almost a 6. sense when a man is desperate, and that is true.Heck i think we all know how it is when a heart gets broken. Samael64: We are here to let you know that you are not alone with the broken heart.
I'd have to cast my vote against the sleeping around/strippers and whatnot - it might help ease the pain for a little bit, but you'll ultimately be left with a very hollow feeling when you realize that none of it is something that will last. Not that I've ever done anything like that, but I've seen many a friend go through the same motions, and end up totally miserable. What you need now, as others have said, is some time off. Sure, it's painful, but in the end it will be good for you. Take the time to get back in touch with yourself - sometimes when you're dating, you can lose sight of what defines you as an individual. Think about the relationship - and most importantly, the girl. What were the things you liked about the whole thing? What didn't go so well? Did you ever have to compromise on anything important to you? Was it worth it? Taking time like this is good, as it helps you gain a better understanding of what you're really looking for in a relationship, and what to search for (and avoid) the next time around. And sure, the time after a breakup is absolutely no fun (this I can speak on from experience), but there are things you can do to lessen the pain. Spend some time with friends that maybe you didn't see as much when you were with the girl. Maybe go hang out in a different place than you normally would - meet some new people. Did you ever have a hobby or interest you wanted to pursue, but were never able to while you were in the relationship, or just never thought about it? Maybe now's the time to finally go skydiving, or buying that mountain bike, or getting that health club membership. Above all, make sure you keep your activities positive. Going out and drowning your sorrows in alcohol, seeing strippers, and all those other things will just leave you feeling worse. Fill the empty void with fun things that will enrich your life, and maybe one day you'll meet someone who likes those same activities - maybe that will even be the way you meet the next lady! But for now, take it slow. Don't jump into a rebound relationship, because you're just bound to be hurt again when - and not if - it goes sour. Though it's not at all what you want, the best thing for right now is to just get used to being single. And of course, my name is on the pantheon of open AIM and MSN addresses available for chatting and ranting, should the need arise: just click the icons underneath my avatar.
btw...guess I should clear this up as I was joking about sleeping around...just trying to bring levity to the situation...
Hey man, don't take it hard. We've all been there. The last girl I was with moved off to northern california with some other guy, and didn't return my phonecalls. But you know, eventually you just stop caring. For a while it sucks, but in the back of your head you know you will get over it, you will find someone else, etc. After a while it's not so bad. You know what I think it is? I think we all take ourselves too seriously. The result of that is that we stop caring enough to take action when it's needed. Hope you feel better.
I guess we all thought you were serious - whoops! Though it was a good point to bring up, serious or no, as that's often a very common reaction to having a relationship end.
For the love of God, don't turn to drugs. It'll often leave you more depressed than you were . Waking up the next morning missing $40 and not remembering a damn thing from the other day wasn't too cool, either (don't ask, just trust me )...
There is one world only for such a situation. Owned. That will be all, and before anyone asks, yes I am an asshole.
My ex does make some KILLER "special" brownies, though. Staying friends with her (thanks to gaming, she's a serious 2D addict) has increased my enjoyment of F-Zero X and most of my Atari and Inty collection, to levels I never imagined.;-) But yeah, drugs to compensate the end of a relationship is taking revenge against yourself. I should know - that breakup, precisely, taught me that Clonazepam and Vodka don't mix peacefully, much less when you're on Prozac.
Good advice for the short run, GSL, but I'm convinced that if you don't have a slut phase before you get married, your chances of regretting it are exponentially higher. I never really had one, and don't regret it, but I'm a rare breed. I did kind of lose my self in illegal substances from 18 well thru college... and that, I'm glad I got out of my system.
oooh the "happyness" pill is not a good thing , or for that matter fontex (the same thing just another name). drugs are bad mmmmkay ?
marijuana is a drug... sugar is a drug... advil is a drug... tv is a drug... video games are a drug... sports are a drug.. eating is a drug for some too.
This is what happens when you let your friend use your computer while you sleep. That, and black dicks posted on other forums you visit. My apologies for that; carry on. Sorry about your girlfriend, though I'm sure someone else will come along eventually. Keep your head up.
