10yr Relationship has ended.. need tips!

Yeah, the best thing is to take comfort that it is impossible to look forward to the past - it has already happened. One's life may be shaped by it, and altered by it, but there's nothing better than knowing that in a few days, or weeks, or months, you'll have redirected any negative momentum to get yourself back on top of life.

It's good to hear you're taking it all pretty well, you must be quite strong on the inside.

 

That can be both true and not.
Wouldn't you want to have someone you want to grow old with and spend the rest of your lives together being best friends and lovers?

(excuse me, if that was cheeseball corny lol)

 

Live fast die young, who needs getting old ;P

 

Agreed, that would be nice, just need to find that... again... :lol:

Most women have met recently have been trouble hence my comment :icon_bigg

 

Oh I see where you are comming from.

It's been the same for me. Trouble, But I still want to find a girl I could spend the rest of my life with. I thought i had in the past, but i'm sure we all know that went bad lol.


It will happened when it's meant to happen. Every relationship is a learning experience

 

I too am having real women problems at the moment. I had two girls literally fighting over me, I got with one, didn't get on with her, then a third one jumped in the ring and that's now pissed off the original two.

I've never really had attention from women before, usually I'm doing the chasing so I'm not handling it well. Good fun though.

 

haha 3 women at the same time?

That certainly is a pickle.

The only thing I could say is, Pick the one you think you can see yourself with the most. And forget about the other two.

 

A real pickle, I'm in a similar situation myself atm, like you Im usually the one trying to chase a girl and never being chased.

Having 2 girls after you saying they love you is hard, 3 girls is just too much x_x nothing fun about it, trust me

someone always gets hurt in the end

EDIT: check out this old thread: http://www.assemblergames.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6132
lots of good advice there, helped me a lot

 

Yeah but the third is my housemate and my best mates ex, she's very hot though and she know it. And to top it off all four of us work together so nothing gets kept secret for long.

 

Thats a long time, you should move on.

Women give mixed messages, which men aren't good with.

If she doesn't say she loves you and is nice to you, then what is it about her that you love?

 

Don't know why they keep on doing that??? I mean we never get it anyway Lol

My ex-wife is still teasing me... boring... and I give clear messages :shrug:

 

Ugh. I hate the stupid signal game between sexes. It's just retarded unless you are looking for a one night stand IMO.


Why can't people just be genuine and fall for people for who they are (if they are also physically attracted to them) instead of sending some lame signal telling them oh hey i like you.

It's too damn complicated.

I went and hung out with my ex last tuesday and she's dating some other guy right now but it seemed as if she was trying to flirt with me or something. Stepping on my feet as if on purpose and then laughing about it and stuff.

She knows I have feelings for her, But when I asked her and talked about this other stuff it ended up me saying "why would you be jealous of me dating (the womans name) If you don't have feelings for me?"

And all I got as a response was "I didn't say that" (refering that she never said she didn't have feelings for me)


This is the same person who I thought I could spend my life with, We talked on the phone for 10 hours straight more than once when we were dating almost a year ago.


She just confuses the shit out of me.

 

Everything. I don't know how else to say it.
And I know it seems like I'm just some dumb kid caught up in some shit, and I fully realize my potential and probably ignorance of the situation and life itself... but I couldn't be more serious about it. Maybe that makes sense?


But yes, mixed messages... are bad. On the plus side, I've stopped hiding behind cryptography and just being straightforward with... actually everyone. It feels really good. I've grown so much in the past couple months, it's very exciting even if it's all through a lot of pain.

 

Please take my advice and don't get to hung up on just one girl,its not worth it in the long run.

 

But what if it actually did end up being good for him? What if all the time ,patience and perseverance actually did pay off? :shrug:


For all we know tomorrow this girl could finally realize that she has been missing out on this totally great guy.

Maybe all he needs to do is show this girl how great he is and how un-dependant on her he is.:clap:

You never know really.. I guess

 

Pow!

 

Face it, you've been watching too many chick flicks. Dump the two timing son-of-a-bitch and walk away with dignity. Do NOT go hiring out "Marley & Me" and sobbing into your glass of Rose wine.

She's about as good for him as the above advice!

 

Get a few hobbies, preferably one that sucks both large sums of money and time, a few good drinks, a few friends, and a nice joint to pick up hookers...and your set!

Why waste time on relationships, when I can blow my time, money and resources on cars, beer and a good time!!

 

Amen to that. Although I may have put my penis in someone last night by accident. Further complicating the "love triangle"

I think there's a fourth contender now too. My life is so weird right now.

 

I had a 3 yr dead-end relationship end about 2 yrs ago. Been single since and don't plan on a relationship anytime soon. Just try to hang in there and eventually time will make you numb to the past.