10yr Relationship has ended.. need tips!

Message to Wan5, did you actually want your thread back or are you perfectly happy to allow us to continue to ride over the top of it?

Twimfy, she is indeed attractive, but WAAAAYYYY too young for me to pass any comments without it feeling very wrong. So, in a kind of older brother way, I suggest you just enjoy the experience.

 

There you go Tim! What else do you need?? I know people that would KILL for GP's endorsement! :lol:

 

Oh, I could give you a list...

 

Isn't it , That girls prefer intimacy with sex being romantic? And guys it doesn't matter at all, they can do it anytime anywhere . The whole seperation of sex and emotions.

Personally I just can't have one-night stands with women.I'd enjoy the sex i'm sure but I know that after it's over I'll just feel empty and unsatisfied. And I could never damage a woman emotionally like that if I don't Love her.


This probably sounds stupid but I like calling sex Making love ......LOL?:033: with someone I love.

 

Ex-girlfriends? :lol:

 

I find that trait of yours to be very respectable, RARE and AMUSING-

More men should think like you.
I've had "meaningless" sex, and it damaged me more than it did me good. Of course, everything was in the context of a relationship. But it was meaningless because the guy didn't care for me... so in those cases, it was really damaging for me.

In any case, my advice to our dear Twimfy here remains the same. TALK TO HER and sort it out.

 

Ok she's hooked, but there's too much at risk for her for us to go public with this. I mean I don't give a shit, I have nothing to lose but she's really uncertain.

It can only go two ways really, we either keep having this secret on your doorstep life of we part ways, both roads lead to heartache and fall out as far as I can see.

@graciano - Using my real name....aaaaaghhh two can play at that game Jonathan. Lol don't care really, obvious to most i'd imagine just seems weird seeing it on here...wonder how many other Tims there are on here.

 

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Yes, exactly.

I am so tired of hearing my own brother babbling at bars about railing chicks and shit. Then again maybe I don't understand him, or "it" at all.

 

sex with someone you hate is even more awesome. You can feel the power.

 

NO. I guess it depends on if there's an immense ammount of shame included with that.

My brother... (I think I'm safe saying this, I don't think he'll ever know I post...) and I were at a halloween costume party last year. I got a little drunk, and really bored, and went home. Big mistake. He got a little high and even more drunk, then railed a... less-than-desirable girl.

He was dressed as Harpo Marx.

She just looked like some sort of bowling ball/vampire bat/hooker/lol I said bowling ball because it was true.


Best part of the night was him staying in character for like 3 straight hours.

 

The friend zone sucks, women lol. I dated a girl who said that she felt like she'd known me forever that whatever I felt for her she felt 10 times more, that everything was so different with me. And all this other crap.

Then a month later she had this wacky mental breakdown because I was graduating high school and she was a couple grades behind me. Mostly because of her crazy ex who had this deathgrip on her because he was her first boyfriend but his 10th girlfriend.
Anyway she had this insane idea that when I moved to florida that I was going to cheat on her becasue all she'd ever known was her ex cheating on her.

Well her being stubborn didn't get talked out of breaking up because of said ex.
Who then became her bf again.

I left her a message saying that I know how people act and he will just hurt her again and that I would always love her (yatta yatta, which coincidentally Is still true in a cosmic weird kind of way)


well 6 months go by and I get phone call one day and whatta ya know, it's her. And she starts telling me some stuff then she starts crying about how he cheated on her again.
And at this point I thought it was a good time to throw away my resentment towards her. And just be there for her
It seemed like we were really close again and that I might get my second chance.

3 months go by and nothing's happened. She starts her next year of classes , i'm getting ready for college. And me with having so much free time decided I'd go to her school and hang wtih her during her lunch break. Low and behold to my great day, this friend that she had been telling me about is now her new boyfriend. I feel extremely un-comfortable but me keeping a straight face at all times still act like i'm having a good time.

Apparently they "just happened" like within a couple days of me comming to hangout.

And when i'd talked to her on the phone within that time frame found out that she still thinks that it's easier to tell and talk to me about stuff than anybody else even her bestfriend.

But I never really just got it. I didn't act like a pushover, I wasn't too nice etc. Did she ever consider me or how I felt? she knew how I felt.

She said a few days before that, that "we" could happen again but it would depend on a few things. She never mentioned what that was.


I've just never really gotten it at all lol.
Now i've gone the route of having to act different than I am and lie about stuff to see how he reactions play out.

Like I've been more of a smart ass towards her and told her That I had a new girlfriend, with her saying back how I should treat her. And me Acting like I don't feel like being a good boyfriend anymore because when I am i get fucked. Just like everytime I put my own neck out for someone else.

Then this past weekend she called to tell me her father had a heart attack. Why would I want to know? Why would I care?(I do) Why does she bother telling me? I'm not her boyfriend

the whole situation as a whole is really confusing as hell


http://www.collegehumor.com/video:1921793

The video is the Adam and eve in the friendzone in the playlist

 

That was the joke, yes.

 

Sex is not the answer.

Sex is the question.

The answer is yes.

-Confucius

 

^ Win

 

haha barcode thats classic

 

So, how's everything going Twimfy???

any news?

are we still in the SHENANIGANS part? (I loooooooove that word... shenanigans lol)

 

It's sort of sitting at a half relationship. We're still keeping it a secret and she's still going away in 3 months but I'm happy for it to trundle along the way it is at the moment.

 

GOOD!
I'm happy for you!:nod:

 

Kill her, burn the body, freeze-dry the ashes and make yourself a cup o' coffee with it.

I call it the gorechiatto

 

That drink needs VODKA:katamari: