Who's got girl issues?

some of us here are married some of us aren't, some single.

I'm the latter, and after being torn into by 2 women who had no right to tear into me my usual calm self lashed out with "LISTEN YOU COW YOU DON'T KNOW ME"

well sort of.

I'm a decent 25 year old guy, I'm a Youth pastor, I'm very good with Teenagers and helping them with their problems (including some of the seedier problems they have) Parents love me I'm just a generally well liked person. But girls......girls here are either snobby and think they are better than me, Taken or want to date some gangsta that's going to beat her senseless......or they're just plain stupid.

I had countless close calls I WAS SO CLOSE but the girls just turned away and decide to date some Douche instead.

Tonight I just reached my boiling point I am just so sick of my run of bad luck. I know I'm not doing anything wrong, it's just how common are girls that share my intersts? OUR Interests, Even if she's just a casual gamer that'll sit down for some pac man...gotta have common interests as a grounds to start with right?

I'm not really asking for advice or anything I just needed to vent to a group of smart people which you all are. Maybe somebody else here is going though what I am or has been in my position.

I just don't understand why I'm stuck in this position where lesser guys who have no respect for women are getting them.

 

Theres more to it then just sharing interests. I hang out with plenty of good looking girls who are willing to sit down and play even Call of Duty, but that doesnt mean they are girlfriend material.

 

You'll find casual gamers in all places. you're not looking hard enough. I found my GF (Who I LOVE) at WORK. I work at a Starbucks inside of an Albertsons grocery store. When I started working she was in another relationship and it was just "oh she works here and gives me my checks every week". We talked about the wii when i camped out for it and sh esaid i was silly. Everyonce in awhile when I would come in she would compliment either my clothes or my hair....

One day she popped by and we chatted and she said "oh dude, we're not friends on myspace" and gave me her url. I didn't like her at the time and added her anyway, we started talking on and then on aim and I started to crush on her...and vice versa. Turns out she has a gamecube, and a DS and loves them both (at the time she had more DS games than me!) Dated for a few months (first date = Mario Kart DS and a movie )

Now we're a happy couple, and her graduation party was based upon Nintendo Wii and Guitar Hero.

You'll find someone!

 

My girl problems are non-existant, as I'm not involved with anyone Havn't been since January (it was a kinda wierd relationship, I was moving away, and we were kinda "seeing each other-ish" for a month or 2, so I just kinda played along to keep her happy, until I had to leave, and she got all upset and I felt like a douche, cause I didn't want to go to far to prevent her being hurt (didn't work), and in doing that, I looked like a massive freeze .

I need more money (ie a job) before I'm gonna go out on the prowl again I think.

So yeah, everyone has girl problems (or guy problems), but don't spend all your time looking for someone just like you, as that person might be similar, but horribly different in their own way. Find someone you feel for becasue you like them, not because you both like doing similar things (though it helps).

 

i ve got financial issues more than anything else!

 

dude, best thing to do is stop getting worked up trying to find someone, just let it happen, if someone likes you then go for it, but dont just go chasing tail for the sake of finding someone

i met my missus when i was doing me degree in music, had seen her about the campus before but wasnt really interested, she sat next to me in the canteen 1 day as there were no other seats, 13 years later, were married with 2 kids and i couldnt be happier, shes never had no real interest in gaming, apart from her ds, but at the end of the day, are games something you need to have in common with a woman to make you both happy?

seriosly, if you want a woman, stop looking and youll meet 1

 

Force'em.

 

So you really love teenagers :lol:

j/k, cant resist making priest-and-playground jokes!

 

I've got a song for you... the guy's who care too much for particular girls.

 

Well I know how you feel but you have to keep trying,there is someone out there for you.

My current girl problems are kind of confusing at the moment,but its working out pretty good I would say,Im just taking things slow as possible.

 

Agree with DD.. stop looking and one will fall outof the sky....

Might hit you on the head mind but hey its a woman!

 

or a flying monkey / woman hybrid with a broken wing!

 

PMSL :lol:

I cant remeber exactly where that is from....

my mind keeps trying to say Wizard of Oz but that is sooo wrong!

 

Oh and seeing as you are a Youth Pastor.... this might have some reference...
its biblical for God to want for some of us to be married and some of us to be single. If you feel deep down that you dont want to be a single person then God has a plan for you to meet someone... but on his terms & timescale..

use the time you have being single to his benefit and you will be sorted! :thumbsup:

 

I don't mind.........belive me I have a weird relationship with some of the kids I work with....Not gay but if you didn't know us you could easily assume that.

I've thought about that and discussed it with other people and came to the conclusion that if he didn't want me to be involved with any one it wouldn't be so heavy on my heart.

anyway just to clairify Gaming was just an example essentally I was saying that I wanted to meet a girl I have at least 1 thing in common with.

But anyway I feel a little better now.

 

you know what the most ironic thing is with girls: when you don't have them you want them.. when you have them you want to get rid of them!
just enjoy your freaking single time! I love being single at times.. and just sitting around the house stinking myself up not cleaning the house, playing games and messing around on the pc.. these are the times I can really be myself! eventually you settle down.. when you get too old for this shit but until then just enjoy mate!

 

People here have some decent advice.

Everyone has girl / relationship problems at one point or another. You sound like myself 10 years ago, trying too hard to get a girlfriend for either simply having one and not being alone or just to get laid. If you try too hard you'll always be disappointed and will easily see the negative side of things when they 'ditch' you.

Just hang around caring and good people, and good things will come your way. Someone here said they've befriended a girl who was already dating someone else, but the friendship sticked and turned in to something more after she broke up! So, just be patient and keep on meeting new people I suppose. It's sounds like you're on the right track anyway.

 

or failing that, go into genetics and make yourself a half flying monkey / woman (without the broken wings tho)

@ fester, it was inspired by the wizard of oz, then corrupted by my perverted mind, think planet of the apes monkeys with wings

 

monkeys+wings= darkwater =)

 

Golden rule of Finding a girl:

don't going looking for one!

As its been said before you have to stop looking and relax before you "find" one. Its more likely to be a change meeting or something totally random. Age ago I stopped looking then 2 lasses turned up (Woo!) one was a good mate and it just started - actually started from having a toy fight. The second who i am still with was on myspace just got talking. Turned out she used to live a few hundred meters away from me in Manchester. She isn't into games at all but doesn't mind if i go awol for a day playing my nice shiny xbox and she seem how big my collection is too
Thing just happen it may be tomorrow it may be next week or next year, it will happen just have to relax and be yourself.


























Ps it also helps if your good in bed too.