Japanese wife.

lol. Yeah sometimes that's the case here too. Depends how young the woman is really. If she's say 20, and the man is 55 then of course.

 

If she was under 20 then no thanks. I'm 37 so not some old fart in his 50's and she's 22, an adult woman. No issues as far as age is concerned IMO. Anyway, I don't go looking for women but if one comes to me I'm not going to tell her to piss off unless she is a "Gold digger" and in that case I can spot them a mile away.

 

Sure fire way to have women interested in you: get in a serious relationship or married.

George Costanza was right.

 

Gold diggers are easily scared off if you refuse to pay their drinks and clothes.

The good ol' age gap rule is as follows: (1/2)*(your own age) + 7 years.

For Yakumo, that's 18.5 + 7 = 25.5 years. So he's a lucky bastard pushing the rule heheh

 

Lucky barstard indeed. Still a bit unsure about the situation though but may as well enjoy it while it lasts.

 

so i take it that as soon as these japanese women get a ring on their finger they become cold and frigid? they must be tired with children too but do they, sorry to be crude, ma$trubat@ if they don't give it to their husbands or do they cheat and go to those host bars to get jiggy?

 

More like as soon as the kid comes along. Before my son popped out there was too much sex. Now there's nothing.

 

Yeah, it's more about the kid than marriage... statistically speaking, anyway.

 

I think this can be true, not just because women find you attractive if you are unavailable but also because if you're insecure when you're not in a relationship then women find that unattractive.

 

I would feel somewhat conned. If before they were all horny until they "got you" and then after a kid(s) they don't put out. But I guess there's two sides to every story?

maybe they are scared of getting pregnant again? Mainly because of the low - birth rate issues?
maybe they just assumed that their husbands cheat on them anyway? I heard that guys can just "get off" for very little money and in every major city quite easily in japan? I think the generation before them had mistresses and it was kind of part of life and as long as money was coming in, that was the main thing. Just to stay married for financial and social acceptance.

or has the novelty of marrying a foreign guy with built in free english worn off? they realize that the foreign husband is like another child to look after, can't do anything as much as a japanese husband, can't vote, can't read a newspaper as good, can't truly understand their culture?

if your wives are both working and have kids and the husbands aren't automatically going up the career ladder as if they were if they were japanese guys it must be a big worry for the future? it's hardly the recipe for wanting sex all the time. they must be so tired and stressed out. Maybe they regret choosing the foreign guy? i don't know?

but to be in a sexless (loveless?) marriage is not healthy. life's too short, just leave them and find happiness with someone else. but they have all the rights to the kids don't they? so they totally have you by the short and curlies? And doesn't the japanese wife handle all the finances and give husbands pocket money? these japanese woman are smart! just control everything and don't put out and just flick the bean for themselves.

i do think a wife should give their husbands sex though regardless as long as they are working and being faithful.

so the question is Gaijin punch and yakumo- hand on heart, have you ever cheated on your wives? if yes, then one can't blame them for no sex, WOMAN ALWAYS KNOW! THEY CAN SMELL IT!

 

No, only one side to this story. They are cunts.

 

Where's the like button?

 

You joke of course. as to label half the population of japan and the person that gave you a kid(s?) is just vile.

to get wives to go give sex to husbands in japan ive heard they like expensive bags/accessories, for their husbands to give up childish and selfish hobbies such as masturbating, gaming, taking candid b/w photos of strangers etc. plus ive not met a women that doesn't like their viginas licked.

try that and report back people?

 

Living through it is not the same as reading about it. Once you live in Japan for more than a handful of years you will not have to read about all the weird phenomenon that make this place what it is.

So, street photography is a childish hobby?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2yVXt0CxgA

I also use color. Got a nice non-candid photo of a lady walking her pet Pineapple yesterday.

 

Could that whole frigidness attitude and leaving the husband on the side once they have a son be attached to unresolved Oedipus complexes?

It sure sounds a lot like that to me... What's the state of psychotherapy in Japan? Do people usually go to therapy?

I think many of the issues you guys have described, can indeed be linked to Oedipus complex.

Lastly, as a woman, I found several parts of this thread mildly insulting... You guys need to stop generalizing... not all of us women want to date bad boys, become baby popping machines or go digging for gold in your pockets.

That said, what's the landscape like for western women married to japanese men? Is it any different?
I bet that scenario is not a happy one either....

 

We could go on as to why for pages and pages. Not to sound too generalizing, but sexless marriage definitely more culturally accepted here than the west. I think a lot of it has to do with the kids being raised in a female-dominated home.

Uh... no.

Don't take everything so seriously. You know people (specifically me) will not miss an opportunity to get some laughs, even if in bad taste.

Mixed bag. I know only a handful who have done so, and for them it's quite similar. I know more western girls that flat out don't date Japanese guys, so would avoid said problem. Pretty slim pickins if you want to go that route and live in Japan.

Coming full circle, I really don't mind all the bullshit that comes along w/ marrying a J-girl. Or I guess I should say "could" come along with. I have plenty of happily married friends. The problem is you have basically no legal recourse to get out assuming there is a child involved. No child? Easy, just leave. Once there's a kid, you're fucked.

 

And with that, he was gone forever...

 

And with that, he was gone forever...

 

im sorry for being a part in insulting a female in these posts i will say sorry for that.

Mr gaijin punch and Yamamoto have been honest with sharing there marriages experience.

but they both failed to deny or confirm if the have ever had sexual encounters with another person that is not that jgirl spouse.

so my bid to understand ceased.

If yes i do not blame the wives for not being sex with them as a) they would know and b) it is a betrayal of the holy unity of marriage and can not blame them for shutting them out in that way.