Dating in Japan: the reality.

People overthink dating in Japan. It's just people that live there too, and tbh I kinda get sick of the whole '' Japanese people evaluations'' that tend to pop up on message boards, like they're some kind of freaks that have to be handled with care or something.

 

i agree it probably does come off a little weird, but it -is- a little weird.

if you don't think it is then that's all well and good, but from the people out here, i'd say it is unlike any other place i've been: it IS different and it HAS been weird.

there are many many factos for this - the main one i'd point to is that , despite being an "international city" Tokyo is insanely insular which makes the locals interactions with foreigners somewhat different. But hey

 

If you haven't noticed cultural barriers in any type of relationship (professional, romantic, and to a lesser extent friendly) then you've not been exposed enough. It can really be more divided as East vs. West to an extent, but there are subclasses to both. Work in a Japanese company and you'll know exactly what I mean. There's a reason why some jobs will only be given to bilingual Japanese and others to native English speaking foreigners.

 

I agree it is a bit different, but I've dated plenty of girls in Japan to also say that it's not half as weird or different as some people make it out to be... Those people usually tend to forget that half of the reason is their wrong approach to things/Japanese (women) in general.

Only thing I will note is that they tend to be a bit more clingy, as girls would get pissed if I didn't reply to their texts within the hour and so on.

 

huh? wrong approach to things/Japanese women? :/

what is the "right" approach?

not sure what the right/wrong approach is here but be the girl western or Japanese she'd be shown the door if she's complaining about text response times!

Again, it's different horses for different courses - i like strong willed independent women who can think for themselves and to be honest i haven't come across too many Japanese women like that unfortunately.

 

I heard that red hair to Japanese women is a plus. Is this true?

 

no, that's clearly a minus!

 

I would say dealing w/ women in general is a fair statement.

Really? Since college or so, I've always dreamed for one that would just shut the fuck up on occasion. I'm also on the hunt for a unicorn.

 

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bwahahaha
just to clarify i more meant someone who won't go batshit insane because i didn't call her every 10 minutes, doesn't want to spend every 5 minutes together, has her own friend and goes out and does her own thing, her own income, her own interests etc

i note through this with some sense of irony that i did infact marry the j-nerds largely rare "J-Girl" - deeply into video games, reads manga, into gundam/robots, collects figurines etc. though obviously she filled in all of the above characteristics as well :/

I guess we started talking more because of video games, more specifically because of Skykid and shared disinterest in the early PS2 line up. lol.

 

That's something I experienced when friends came to visit me, they were fairly standard game nerds in the UK but once in Japan it went up a notch and they were shocked when girls didn't want to talk about games all day or hang out at the arcade.

Japanese girls on the whole just seem to appreciate the little things more. I've not looked into it much but Japanese men seem to have difficulty in telling the girls how they feel which seems to be a major difference with gaijin. At least to get what you want anyway..... ;-)

 

It's one thing to be searching for some impossible Japanese woman that has the exact same extreme video game/anime/what-the-fuck-ever habits. I think it's more important to ask whether your average JP woman would be OK with these things.

I know of plenty of American girls/women that wouldn't care too much either way, and might join in on the fun.
Then there's plenty of them who wouldn't even go near a person with those interests.
Then the almost terrifying ones who share the same gaming (etc) blood, who are usually either 1. Not attractive (in my humble opinion), 2. Attractive and taken, 3. Attractive and annoying as fuck, or 4. Mediocre in every way possible.
...or 5. Your/your friend's sister.

 

My wife want nothing to do w/ the hobby (or most hobbies for that matter) and that's cool with me. She gives me the space I require which is all fun and dandy. I don't play many 2-player games anyway.

 

same here. she had/has some fun with mario games in her childhood and later on with guitar freaks and that was it from her gaming side. but since she knows how it works, she wouldn't hold anything against.

 

The extent of my wife's gaming was a very, very short-lived infatuation w/ GBA Zelda (Fushigi no Boushi). She liked finding the stuff, but couldn't beat any of the bosses, so I had to do that for yer.

 

lol..yeah the usual story.
as a dr. slump and arale-chan fan, she also had some fun with the one 3D jump'n'run, came out on the PSone. and the very same there, i had to take care about the boss issues all the time.

oh, and i forgot, there was a time when we lived back in switzerland and she hadn't much to do the whole day, she cleared many of the PC Engine digital comics like snatcher, urusei yatsura, ranma etc. completely by her own.
needless to say that snatcher was the one she liked the most.

 

soooo an 18 year old, blonde-haired blue-eyed Londoner moving to Japan in a month should do well...? *crosses fingers*

P.S whats so bad about aussies?

 

Not really. You're basically at the top of the shit pile. Really depends on your ability to find 'adventurous' people.