Dating in Japan: the reality.

Don't you have to speak Japanese?

I realized early on that I wouldn't be able to relate to a girl who wasn't a native English speaker or totally fluent, seeing how I don't speak any other languages (not proud of it).

 

I think an open mind is more important though.

 

You need to speak the universal language, if you know what I mean, and I think you do because let's face it, we're all adults here.

 

Packed wallet ?:evil:

 

Thank you. The language of love thing is just plain silly. As far as I could tell, dating was always a lot of wheeling and dealing. If it's different elsewhere on the planet, I'd be amazed.

 

We have a winner!

 

A good relationship should be equal, if you have to put your hand in your pocket to pay for things (other to show you are a gentleman) then you are doing something wrong...

 

Well i agree with you but from what i see in here Japanese women must be "greedy" as hell [heh not all of them ]

 

i should dig the article out about the Heartland finance-industry-employee hunting ladies.

those ladies had a plan, and the statements they managed to get out of them were hilarious ... and disturbing.

 

It's been posted here (find my "real victims of the economic crisis" thread). A true classic piece of literature. I introduced it to my Hawaii office (which is run by ex-exapts). One of my bosses read it like a poetry reading... they were in stitches when it got to the bit about "IT consultants".

Back on topic, I think there are very few women in the world whom at the first of a relationship will be wooed by a man who doesn't spend money on her at some point. You don't have go into debt, but in the getting to know you phase, there should be some proverbial greasing of the wheels if you want to grease any other parts of your body. I wouldn't call this superficial... I think it's just part of modern-day courting. You're not going to get laid buying someone a Happy Set at McDonald's and a knick-knack from Don Quixote. One night stands not withstanding.

On that note, I think when present time DOES come around the standard Japanese woman has this fucked up skewed view that the man needs to spend 3x on them, b/c that's what Japanese men do.

 

that's because Japanese men are dickheads. They are so weak in that regard. My wife's always saying "Well a Japanese guy would buy me that" or "A Japanese guy would help" yeah , because they're shit scared to say sod off. But a Japanese guy will expect his dinner ready when he gets home, expect to come home late pissed out of his head without a word against him being say, expect his wife to make his bento and so on. I don't expect any of that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting again.

Yakumo

 

Just start listing the other things a non-foreign guy would do:
-Make shit
-Work longer
-Not let you get away w/ half the things I do.

Etc., etc.

 

I can't belive I haven't posted this yet
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eeJv-ffJgI

 

Is it possible to date a giant robot and become a Japanese woman?

 

Impossible is nothing, you have to really really want it, though :thumbsup:

 

I beg to differ. I'd say the less confusing ones possibly speak English. And I don't mean language issues. As far as I see it all JP girls are an enigma, wrapped in a cipher smothered in secret sauce(newsradio reference...). :lol:

 

You don't need to speak Japanese to do well with the women in Japan. You just need to look good.

Spoken language is overrated.

-hl718

 

You don't even need to look good, you just need to be there. I'm no looker (ask GP and Phinn) and I had plenty of offers (including one attempted marrying off)